Fluttr: 🚩 How to Spot Dating Red Flags Before You Get Hurt

But They Seemed So Perfect at First...

We’ve all been there:

😍 Stage 1: "Wow, they’re amazing!"
🤔 Stage 2: "Hmm, that was weird… but maybe I’m overreacting?"
😱 Stage 3: "HOW DID I MISS THIS?!"

Here’s how to catch red flags early—before you’re emotionally invested.

🚩 The Subtle Red Flags (Easy to Miss)

1. Love-Bombing 💣

❌ "I’ve never felt this way before" (on day 3).
✅ Healthy pace: Affection grows over weeks, not hours.

2. Future-Faking 🎭

❌ "We should go to Bali next year!" (before meeting IRL).
✅ Genuine plans: Discusses near-term dates first.

3. Hot-and-Cold Behavior 🌡️

❌ Texts constantly, then disappears for days.
✅ Consistency: Replies within a reasonable time.

🚩 The Obvious Red Flags (But We Ignore Them Anyway)

4. Talking Badly About Exes 😈

❌ "All my exes were crazy."
✅ Green flag: "Some relationships didn’t work out, but I learned from them."

5. Pushing Your Boundaries 🛑

❌ "Why won’t you send more pics? Don’t you trust me?"
✅ Respects limits: Drops the topic when you say no.

6. Isolating You 👥

❌ "Your friends don’t get us like I do."
✅ Encourages your life: Asks about your friends/family.

**🚩 The Dangerous Red Flags (Run.)**

🆘 Controlling behavior ("You shouldn’t wear that.")
🆘 Explosive anger ("Why did you like that guy’s post?!")
🆘 Substance abuse issues ("I only party hard on weekends.")

💡 Rule: If you feel unsafe, trust your gut. Exit ASAP.

🔍 How to Test for Red Flags Early

Ask About Their Last Relationship
- 🚩 "It was all their fault."
- ✅ "We grew apart, but no hard feelings."
Notice How They Treat Waiters/Staff
- 🚩 Rude to service people = future rudeness to you.
Bring Up a Small Boundary
- 🚩 "You’re too sensitive."
- ✅ "Got it, no problem!"

🛠️ What to Do If You Spot Red Flags

Don’t excuse it ("Maybe they’re just stressed...").
Talk about it ("When you said ___, it made me feel ___.").
If they dismiss you? Leave.

**💡 Remember: Dating Should Feel Easy at First**

The right person won’t leave you confused or anxious.

🚀 Want a Red Flag Cheat Sheet? Grab Fluttr’s Dating Safety Guide for free.

💬 Your turn: What’s a red flag you ignored—and regretted? Share below! 👇

Why This Works:

✔ Real-world examples (No vague advice)
✔ Encourages self-trust (Gut feelings matter)
✔ Engagement hook (Story-sharing = comments)
✔ Safety-focused (Teaches harm reduction)

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🚩 How to Spot Dating Red Flags Before You Get Hurt